If you are worried about your behaviour

How we behave and understand others is an important part of growing as a person. 

It can be difficult to realise when your behaviour is hurting others (even if the intention was good) and seek help. But, support is available; understanding yourself and what has happened can be really helpful. 

If you want to process a situation in a non-judgmental space, you can contact Wellbeing services to speak with an adviser.

If someone has told you that you have hurt them

• Listen to them without interrupting. 
• Take time and space away from them if you need to process what you’ve heard or are feeling angry or upset.  
• If they need time and space away from you, accept this and do not put any pressure on them.  
• Take responsibility for the hurt which they have described.  
• Be led by them about what should happen next. Be prepared that one or both of you may want to end your relationship (romantic or friendship). 
• Take actions to understand your behaviour, the impacts, and how to handle future relationships. 

Support to help you make positive behaviour changes

University support options

You can book an appointment with an Adviser from our Student Wellbeing or Residential Life Services for advice and support. 

External support options

• The Respect Phoneline offers support if you are worried about some of your behaviours and you want to take steps to change them. They have a lot of resources about relationships, as well as a confidential and anonymous phoneline.   
• The Hotline offers a comprehensive guide to planning behaviour change, as well as a  non-judgemental phoneline and live chat.